DonAithnen (donaithnen) wrote,
DonAithnen
donaithnen

I probably don't talk to enough people

Aside from shelleycat i really don't socialize with that many people.

I talk to coraa, jmpava and neonelephant most days while at work. At home i occasionally chat with jmpava, neonelephant and balivatn. Outside of that there's maybe a half-dozen people that i'll exchange LJ comments with on an irregular basis or IM with every once in awhile. It certainly doesn't help that most people seem to have moved over to Facebook while i haven't really gotten into it.

(Just in case anyone is feeling dissed, note that this isn't cause i don't want to talk to people, it's just a matter of not being very aggressive about such things combined with an attitude of "well if they actually wanted to talk then they'd say something to me." (And yes, i realize the problem inherent in that statement =P))

I don't even hang out with people in person much either. Outside of work we'll get together with some of shelleycat's friends every other week or so for boardgames, but other than that i don't really hang out with anyone on a regular basis anymore =P

So exactly how much less social am i than everyone else?

I don't have any goons who will hunt you down if you answer the poll differently than i expect (well, that's the official line anyways =) but here is what i think i mean by the questions:

Counting just friends, not people you work with (unless they're also friends =) and not any Sos you may have (even though i presume they are also friends =)

Two way communication: Anything that involves back and forth talk in something approximating real time. Talking in person or IMing or chat rooms obviously count. If you exchange multiple emails or tweets a day that certainly seems reasonable. If you're one of those people that fires forum posts or blog comments back and forth all day you can certainly count that if you wish.

Exchange messages: Pretty much everything else. Emails that get responded to less than once a day. Blog comments and forum posts that don't happen in rapid-fire mode. IMs and RL conversations that only happen every once in awhile. Etc.

Daily basis: At least three or four times a week i guess? It doesn't have to be literally every day, or even every week day, but it ought to be pretty frequent.

Regular basis: This is hard to generalize since your opinion probably depends on how much communication you have in general. I can often go a week or two without IMing anyone at all if i'm not feeling especially outgoing and no one pokes at me. Even so if it's someone i talk to less than once a month on average i probably wouldn't include them in this group.

Sporadic basis: Less than regular, but often enough that they wouldn't be totally shocked to hear from you i guess? Personally i wouldn't count people that i only see at specific gatherings once or twice a year and don't really communicate with the rest of the time.

Oh, and personally i'm not double-counting people in the "two way communication" group for the "exchanging messages" group.

Edit: And after thinking about it for a bit i decided not to double or triple-count people for the frequency groups. ie for the "regular basis" group i didn't count people that i talk to on a "daily basis" (as one could probably figure out by looking at the numbers =) Since i didn't clarify it originally i suppose anyone who thinks its important can leave a comment saying which way they went.

Poll #1751033 Socializing with friends

Not counting SO(s), how many friends do you have two way communication with on a daily basis?

0
10(55.6%)
1
2(11.1%)
2-3
3(16.7%)
4-5
2(11.1%)
6-9
0(0.0%)
10-14
1(5.6%)
15-19
0(0.0%)
20-29
0(0.0%)
30-49
0(0.0%)
50+
0(0.0%)

Not counting SO(s), how many friends do you have two way communication with on a regular basis?

0
2(11.1%)
1
1(5.6%)
2-3
4(22.2%)
4-5
3(16.7%)
6-9
2(11.1%)
10-14
4(22.2%)
15-19
2(11.1%)
20-29
0(0.0%)
30-49
0(0.0%)
50+
0(0.0%)

Not counting SO(s), how many friends do you have two way communication with on a sporadic basis?

0
0(0.0%)
1
0(0.0%)
2
1(5.6%)
3-5
1(5.6%)
6-9
5(27.8%)
10-14
4(22.2%)
15-19
0(0.0%)
20-29
3(16.7%)
30-49
1(5.6%)
50+
3(16.7%)

Not counting SO(s), how many friends do you exchange messages with on a daily basis?

0
11(61.1%)
1
1(5.6%)
2-3
2(11.1%)
4-5
2(11.1%)
6-9
1(5.6%)
10-14
0(0.0%)
15-19
1(5.6%)
20-29
0(0.0%)
30-49
0(0.0%)
50+
0(0.0%)

Not counting SO(s), how many friends do you exchange messages with on a regular basis?

0
2(11.1%)
1
1(5.6%)
2-3
2(11.1%)
4-5
4(22.2%)
6-9
2(11.1%)
10-14
4(22.2%)
15-19
2(11.1%)
20-29
1(5.6%)
30-49
0(0.0%)
50+
0(0.0%)

Not counting SO(s), how many friends do you exchange messages with on a sporadic basis?

0
0(0.0%)
1
0(0.0%)
2-3
0(0.0%)
4-5
2(11.1%)
6-9
3(16.7%)
10-14
1(5.6%)
15-19
1(5.6%)
20-29
3(16.7%)
30-49
2(11.1%)
50+
6(33.3%)
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