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09 October 2001 @ 11:18 am
So how long should my hair be? I recently got about three inches cut off to deal with split ends, and it now hangs down to about mid-breastbone.

Allyn thinks that I should get it cut down to about shoulder length, she thinks i would look sexier that way.

Kialyn says she likes guys with long hair.

Morna hasn't been very specific, but I got the impression that she might have a tendency towards long hair, though i don't know how long.

Just wondering what other people thought. Answers based on knowing me and what i look like, or just general answers about hair length in general would be equally appreciated =)
Current Mood: curiouscurious
Leora: squirrelleora on October 9th, 2001 12:20 pm (UTC)
I don't know... go with what you like.
Although, I do need to get my hair cut one of these days. I like ine long, but I, alas, gave in and agreed to get it cut a while ago and was supposed to get it cut again last August, so I'm very overdo. My SO doesn't really have a long hair/short hair preference but thinks my face works better with shorter hair. *shrugs*
Short hair is easier to maintain, it seems to tangle less, although with proper trimming long hair should be managable. Just make sure your hair is long enough to braid.

Hair gets played at if it's either long enough to braid or it's so short it's just fuzz and feels neat. Anything in between and you lose attracting people to play with your hair value.
DonAithnendonaithnen on October 10th, 2001 11:10 am (UTC)
Yeah, i definatly want to keep the "play with my hair appeal" =)

I originally got to know the person from SoCalPoly that I go clubbing with ocasionally because she wanted to play with me hair =)

Is shoulder length fairly easy to braid/play with?

Sister Atom Bomb of Courteous Debateakiko on October 9th, 2001 12:27 pm (UTC)
I like long hair on guys. Really long. i like short hair on girls. I'm weird that way.

As for your hair... it's very thin, so it can look straggly when it gets overly long. (My mom's hair's like that.)
DonAithnendonaithnen on October 10th, 2001 11:13 am (UTC)
Re: datapoint
Not quite sure what "straggly" means. I'm not always happy with the way it looks when it's long, but then i didn't always like the way it looked when it was shorter either.

I wish it would either be straight and smooth and nice, or have some kind of volume to it. As it is, it's _mostly_ straight and smooth, but enough not so that it doesn't look very pretty.
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DonAithnendonaithnen on October 10th, 2001 11:15 am (UTC)
Well i wanted to hear what everyone wanted to say. If just one person had said short, and everyone else had said long, then i probably would have kept it long, but it's been a lot of mixed results, so i need to think some more.
Dalton Grahamdaltong on October 9th, 2001 02:11 pm (UTC)
this is how long your hair should be: the length that you enjoy having it.

i make it a policy not to tell my partners what they should or should not do in regards to body modification, because i expect the same courtesy from them. i won't shave my legs or armpits, and in this country, that is considered unusual on a woman for the most part. i also won't pluck my eyebrows, wear makeup, spend a half-hour blow-drying and hairspraying permed hair, etc etc. therefore, if my partner wants to pierce zir nipples *shudder* or grow a beard *yech* i not only support it but i do my best to adjust to and to enjoy it.

so, my policy is to do what i want and need toward my own body. you might give consideration to what you want to do at least equal value when you are weighing opinions. because, ultimately, you're the one who's going to have to deal with the hair day in and day out, and because you ought to look the way you think you look cool.

sorry, that came out preachy. but it was more heartfelt than my initial "oo, long hair on guys! yummy!" reaction.
Leora: ouroborosleora on October 9th, 2001 03:18 pm (UTC)
I agree that each person should decide what is right for them. But I do like to weigh a partner's preferences. I won't dye my hair for anybody, because I am opposed to dying ~my~ hair (anyone else can do what they want with theirs). But I don't care as much about its length, and well, before I got mine cut it did have a habit of attempting to strangle people I snuggled with, and my SO didn't like that. So we talked about it and I agreed to a compromise hair length. And I don't care much about facial hair, but if it starts tickling me too much, he usually cuts it. And probably would more often if I had a preference.

It's really just like anything else in a relationship, how much does it matter to you, how much does it matter to jer, make a decision.
DonAithnendonaithnen on October 10th, 2001 11:57 am (UTC)
I'm not really sure how long i like it.

I like having it long, but i'm not sure how much of that is the fun of being different. It's interesting to be with some friends and be towards the far end of the long hair curve of the group =)

I don't think it's necessary to always be adamant about following your own preference. In this case i have a preference, but it's a fairly small one, enough to possibly be outweighed by other considerations.

It would be nice to look more attractive, and if cutting my hair shorter could accomplish that, it might be a reasonable thing to do. Of course i have to decide what kind of people i wish to appear attractive to (or rather, what would be attractive to the kind of people i want to appear attractive to) hence the question being asked.

The idea of getting my hair cut disturbs me some, and i'm not quite sure if that's because i like it long, or because i just don't like the idea of change. If it's the latter, i might just get it cut for the chaos value. Despite how often i let it happen, i don't like being stuck in a rut. I try to make my life more dynamic when possible, knowing that without such active effort i might become set in my ways.

Despite the fact that a lot of geeky girls (one of the groops that i'm interested in) like guys with long hair, there's also the question of whether or not long hair looks good on me or not, and whether or not the difference between shoulder length and chest length hair would make a big difference to that group.

So yeah, i don't know what i really want, and don't know what i'm going to do, so i figured it might be usefull to hear from other people. There are certainly limits to what i would consider. Even if everyone i talked to said that i should get a crewcut, i would tell them no. My hair is not getting shorter than shoulder length =)
Thaisathaisa on October 10th, 2001 12:55 pm (UTC)

I think you should do whatever you want, short of cutting your hair really short or shaving your head. Cats should have some fur, at least! And the medium-length that Allyn is suggesting is still pretty long, at least in our society, and could be long again soon if you stopped trimming it to that length. Still long enough to play with and all. Given that I don't think you're going to shave your head or anything, I'd say go with whatever you decide is best.