So, want to come visit me in Chicago? :)

You know, as much as i love Caithris and am not sorry about having had the relationship with her at all, i think that _intentionally_ trying to get into _another_ cross-country relationship would be a rather foolish =P

Damned pseudo-2d world we live on-- the number of girls who might be interested in you within distance X goes with the square of X. It's annoying how you're much more likely to find some cute, appropriately-minded girl a thousand+ miles away than within 100.

OTOH, you could do like me and move a thousand+ miles away, so hopefully the ones who would be a thousand miles away from me end up just around the corner.

OTOOH, I'm amused at how quickly I'm becoming friends with linley, having met her thousands of miles away, finding out that she lives not-too-far-away, and then moving about as far away as possible. :)

Steve

True, but the likelyhood that people will bother telling you they think you're cute tends to go down as the distance increases as well, but obviously it doesn't balance out quite evenly.

Um, yeah, that is a pretty sucky way to go about things =P

Yeah, what's up with THAT? Honesty too scary when the distance apart is small? Weeeeird. And unfortunate.

I get bunches of weirdos messaging me on things like okcupid and myspace and orkut. Most of the ones that message me on myspace are from SoCal, but they all seem really greasy and sleazy.

Well yes, it's a well known fact that females always get bombarded with messages on personals sites.

Although i get confused about how so many females complain about the quality of people messaging them, but don't actually send out messages to any of the males that _they_ think are interesting. It's kind of similar to the "nice guy" paradox i guess.

Do you know what types of sleazy messages I get? Let's just say that if I said yes to all the offers I get that, I would... never mind. Guys leave me messages offering to show me their body parts, which isn't really an appealing offer, and is quite creepy. Rarely do any of the "nice guys" ever send me messages.

Yeah, that sounds like the kind of sleazy messages i'd expect unfortunately =/

Rarely do any of the "nice guys" ever send me messages.

That's _exactly_ why you should send messages to them :)

i know a californian who met a midwest girl online, chatted with her a bunch, started visiting her a bunch, and eventually moved her out here and married her. maybe distanc-ism isn't so necessary.

Well i found one girl on the east coast, hit it off well, and then had her decide we shouldn't get involved because of the distance thing. Found a second girl on the east coast, _did_ get involved with her, and she was thinking about moving over here just about the point she dumped me. So my track record for LDRs is not great.

And i'm not really willing to move to the midwest and only somewhat willing to move to the east coast, so i'd feel approaching girls that i knew i was eventually going to want to convince to pick up and move for my sake.

How about just chatting/IMing with the girl in IL - it may not turn into true love or a lasting relationship - I think if you head into things with that expectation, or the expectation that it is doomed to failure, either way you loose out.

Lo these many years ago (okay well actually 2 or so), when I got a message from my hubby online, I didn't think anything would come of it except some conversation and maybe some extra curricular nookie if I could make it up to the bay area. So, you never know what might happen - I certainly didn't figure that I'd just been messaged by my future soul mate who would be willing to follow me to central asia.

So talk to the Illinois girl - maybe you'll learn something, maybe you'll make a freind - it doesn't have to turn into a huge dramatic long distance relationship....though stranger things have happened.

Well she didn't really make an offer to chat per se. I did respond to her message in a similar vein, but haven't heard anything back from her since then.

If she does decide she wants to chat on IM i'm certainly open to it, but it's not something i'm going to actively pursue.

Ah...the technological age. I honestly think it makes it easier to find better romantic "matches." But there's the downside of the vast majority of them being far away. Some long-distance relationships work, but I think they all involve a LOT of work and emotional strain.

I hope you find someone awesome nearby, dear! ^_^

Thank you *purrr* :)

Yeah, i've been in LDRs before. If i end up in one again that's okay, but i'm not intentionally going to seek one out.