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27 June 2001 @ 12:38 pm
Since I got back from the wedding, I've been feeling kind of down.

I got to spend almost all my time with lots of my friends, doing mostly fun things.

Now I'm back home, and I have to work between 8 and 14 hours a day, and when I get home to my apartment, there is no one else there. All my friends and my girlfriend are far away (well, not too far, but it seems far when I'm here and they're there) and I usually spend the evening alone.

Kind of strange, cause at the wedding itself I was feeling a little oppressed by all the people there, a lot of whom I knew, but each of which I interact with in different ways.

If it weren't for Allyn, I might wish that I was on the east coast, so I could hang out with my friends there. But it's a long way away, and I don't know what I would do for a job, and I'm sure that if I actually lived there my life would probably end up following the same petterns, just with different people.

I've been looking online for anime clubs in southern california so that I would have somewhere to go and hang out, at least every couple of weeks, but so far all I've been able to find are high school and college clubs.
Current Mood: sadsad
Current Music: Meg Davis: Mercedes Lackey's By The Sword
Sister Atom Bomb of Courteous Debateakiko on July 6th, 2001 09:42 pm (UTC)
Got yer email...
Reading this would be easier if I could figure out who the heck these people are.

Anyway. What you need is a job that doesn't make you work 14 hour days, or work 12 hour days w/2-hour commutes. Ben's got a job like that, and it pays pretty well, considering he got it fresh from his MS. Maybe he'll get a raise sometime, once the profit margin increases more. And maybe you and he are getting about the same, but it costs a damn sight less to live out here than it does out there.

Unless they're paying you overtime, I sure as hell wouldn't be staying there busting my ass. That's one of the many reasons I quit grad school -- they weren't compensating me enough for me to live in the lab, not that I wanted to do that anyway. I reset my priorities and found a new career goal that wouldn't have me in a small building with no windows at all sorts of hours, including 3 am. Why? Because spending time with Ben, Isis, and my friends was more important to me than getting some stupid degree. (Of course, I'd already started thinking about quitting before I got involved with Ben, but that's not the point.) And, having been in college for 7 years, I now know how much I can slack (or have fun) and still get good grades. (For most classes, a lot. I'll see how much I can slack with 6 med classes.)

Maybe this sounds harsh. I'm not known for tact, and Uncle Mannie has said he likes me because I speak my mind.

Oh, and our local "college" anime club has about 1/3 of its members either alumni or friends of alumni. We just use UNC's facilities, since they're available, and we have a recognized charter and constitution. I'd avoid high school clubs. They can't be nearly as interesting. (And I think COUp is the best anime club ever. Maybe I'm biased, but I've seen other clubs' sites and seen commentary by people in other clubs, and man, do they sound like they suck. No diversity in the anime selection.)
DonAithnendonaithnen on July 12th, 2001 05:47 pm (UTC)
Re: Got yer email...

No, it doesn't sound very harsh.

Unfortunatly one of the prerequisites to getting a relatively well paying job like this is the unspoken understanding that you will stay late busting your ass. If you don't then afterawhile you certainly stop getting pay raises, and after awhile they might very well decide to let you go, or make things unpleasant enough that you decided to leave on your own.

I've actually considered the possibility of moving to someplace like NC where things would be a lot cheaper. I think it's probably more of a change than I really want to make at this point, though it's tempting sometimes.

I thought I heard something about the 5C anime club being students only. In any case, I'd want to find out if all of the attendees were students, or if there was a sizeable fraction of non student members like COUP. Yeah, COUP does sound very cool, (it's got you and ben and robin in it, how could it be anything other than cool? =) and is in fact the reason why I'm wishing I could find an anime club around around here.