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19 January 2002 @ 10:12 pm
Where are all the women?  
Did some random shopping today. Stopped by Trader Joe's and got _way_ too much stuff.

Yes diet coke is artificial and bad for me, but are chocolate covered espresso beans any better? =)

After that i went to Border's and got some books. I saw two cute girls in the science fiction section, but both of them were with guys.

After i bought the books i went to the cafe area. There were a few cute girls there, but there were two or three times as many guys, and all the seats were taken anyway. I think my only option would be to go there before sometime when i expected lots of people to show up and grab a seat before hand.

So where are all the girls?

I go to a club, and there are more guys than girls. I go to Borders and there are more guys than girls. I log onto Nerve and there are more guys than girls. Girls are supposed to be 51 or 52 or some such percent of the population aren't they? So where are all the others hiding?

Where do girls go when they're looking for guys? Where do girls go when they're not looking for guys? It seems that unless there are a lot more girls staying home and doing nothing than there are guys, that there out to be someplace where the ratio is reversed.
Vesperasol_rei on January 19th, 2002 11:37 pm (UTC)
I don't club much..well, I've only done it three times, and I probably won't do it many more times. It's not that I don't like dancing, 'cause I do. It's just not my comfort zone. I don't know "the code," what is and isn't appropriate, what to do when creepy guys hit on me, etc. I know I'm not the only one who doesn't do the club scene. I met my first boyfriend at work and Bryan was one father's co-worker's sons.

I know this doesn't really help you. Sorry. But I did notice that there were an incredible amount of girls at the local Earls. ^^;;
DonAithnendonaithnen on January 20th, 2002 01:26 am (UTC)
Code?? There's a Code? Why doesn't anyone tell me these things?? I guess since you don't know it you can't tell me where i can find a copy of this Code, huh? =)

See, i don't want to be one of those creepy guys. Sigh, what i _really_ want is to be standing there, and for some cute sexy girl who's into video games and anime and science fiction to come over and say "I couldn't help but notice this cute sexy guy standing over here in the corner, what's your name? Want to dance?"

Now if i was a girl there would be at least some remote chance of that happening. Well actually, there would be _really_ good odds of it happening, and some slight odds that the guy doing it would be worthwhile =) However the girls are all too busy fending off the advances of the creepy guys or accepting the advances of the not so creepy ones, and when they're not getting hit on they're probably _expecting_ to get hit on, not looking for guys that they can hit on themselves, and if they were looking they're probably finding a lot more hot and interesting looking guys than me.

So my fantasies are _never_ going to come true, and nothing _else_ is ever going to come true either unless i figure out how to hit on girls.

(okay, writing responses at this time of night is proabaly definitely not a good idea, why do i never remember that at the time though before i get started?)

You're lucky. I'm a programmer, which is bad enough to start with, but i'm also a game programmer. At my last job over the two years i was there there were _three_ technical women there out of about forty or fifty people at any one time, one of which i know is married, another of which may be. At my current job there are _zero_ technical women.

Work is definitely the _most_ ratio skewed enviroment in my life. I think the ratio of women to men in general is still bad, but the ratio of the kind of women i'm interested in to the kind of men who are interested in them is even _worse._

(damn, there i go again)

So, um, what's an Earls?

(okay, no more comments for me)
Vesperasol_rei on January 20th, 2002 10:39 am (UTC)
Earls is a restaurant. Perhaps it's just a Canadian chain..I don't know.

Well, if you want to meet some girls into sci-fi, video games or anime, I suggest going to some conventions! I don't know if there ~are~ any vg conventions, but I know that there are LOTS of anime and sci-fi ones. AND lots of single people go to these. At the anime con I went to, they even had a dance, so that would be a great environment to meet someone.

As for everyday opportunities, I'm not really sure..unless you happen to see a cute girl in the vg or anime section of a video store. Then you could go over and comment on it - "Oh, that one's really good" or "I've heard that one is good."

^_^ Okay enough pathetic advice from me. ^^;;
Life Rebooted: kisshopeforyou on January 20th, 2002 01:48 pm (UTC)

Where to pick up single anime-loving, science-fiction fan, geeky girls:

1. As it's been said before, sf conventions. Try Loscon in LA in November. Baycon in Silicon Valley in May.
(BTW, Worldcon is in Silicon Valley this year. Many geeky girls. Tons of anime. Tons of cool stuff to do. Pay early and just GO!)

2. Comic Cons. LA Expo and other places has several during the year.

3. Science-fiction clubs. LA has LASFS. Bay Area has BASFA, and another Star Wars appreciation and anime fan club. There may be more such similar fare in LA...I'd have to look it up.

4. Any alternative venue, basically. Bi coffee socials. Open circles for Pagan rituals. SCA events. There is a lot of cross-over there. Tons of sf and anime fans are also alternative in other ways.

5. Programming classes. Computer conventions...especially for open-source products. Need I say more?

6. Booksignings.

7. Seminars given on astrophysics, physics, cosmology, artificial intelligence, etc.

8. Concerts for weird, alternative music. Think Weird Al. Think They Might Be Giants.

So there are 8 ideas that might work.

I find my partners in the poly community, and they happen to also be into anime, sf, and tons of other stuff I enjoy, but if you aren't poly, that isn't the place for you to look.

Good luck!