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28 April 2001 @ 08:45 pm
 
How do you convince a girl to love you, or at least go out with you, without begging and pleading with her?
 
 
 
Ailynnailynn on April 28th, 2001 10:32 pm (UTC)
to be blunt.. if you are thinking of resorting to begging or pleading, it isn't going to happen. at least if it were me..

i like to be wooed. you just have to show her the good parts, adn hopefully she will be attracted to them. but truthfully, attraction is not something you can plan or anything. it sometimes does things that are totally opposite of what is desired. attraction either happens or it doesn't..

i know i'm not making sense. but it is 1:30am and i am tired :)
DonAithnendonaithnen on April 28th, 2001 10:49 pm (UTC)

Well that's the problem, I want to know what else to do besides begging and pleading, because I know that won't work. She was originally interested in me for _some_ reason, I would like to be able to get her to notice those same qualities again, whatever they were.

The biggest problem is that she's so busy with her life she doesn't want to schedule any time to spend with me. Since Morna and Bricriu live right there however, they can just stop by to see what she's up to, so she gets time with them, but not with me.

You made lots of sense, thank you for talking =)
Ailynnailynn on April 29th, 2001 08:15 am (UTC)
the problem is, that probably any scheme, or new method you might try to win her, probably won't work. you just have to present your true side to her, and hope she remembers what she loved before.

to be blunt again.. if she sees that you are pining for her, she probably isn't going to be interested in a relationship. because (at least from my pov) she might not like being with dependant people. and if she sees that, then she probably isn't going to be interested. cause she sounds like a very independant woman and being with someone who is dependant is probably not what she is looking for...

i am not saying that you are dependant, but i'm saying that it looks that way from her/my perspective.

truthfully.. the best way to win over a girl? stop pursuing her. go on with your life. do more things for yourself. but you can continue to hang out with her, but just try being more happy with yourself, find out who you are.. and i know this sounds cheesy, and you have probably heard this before, but you can't be loved unless you love yourself.

and i find that to be totally true. as i have seen with numorous friends and whatnot. it is a VERY hard thing to do. but, i am telling you that it will work. girls LOVE confidence. girls love guys who can stand on their own, and not be depressed when they don't have a woman their arm.

oh yeah.. one more thing. i'm sure you have heard this one before too, but it is SO TRUE.

you will find someone once you have stopped looking.

this goes along with what i said earlier, and believe me, i have seen this on so many occasions that it is scary. a guy will be searching so hard for a girl and never finds one. but right when he gives up and decides it isn't worth it? a girl pops into his life.